Something Every Parent Should Read

I've been reading this blog ever since "T" put me up here to tear up the blog world. I'm happy to say that the outcome of all this families tragedy is a positive one, however, he brings out great points of those less fortunate than their family.

Then as Speedbump and I are curled up in front of the fire this am, with both our children safely tucked in bed sleeping, I hear a song. If you aren't big country and western fans, you'll be lost on this one, however, it is a great song....

The title "The Impossible" by Joe Nichols!! It pretty much sums it all up!!

As a parent, the largest fear I have, is something happening to one of my children. It is my plight in life to protect them from the evils and evil people of this world the best way I possibly can, however, what does one do when a situation arises as in the blog mentioned above? That a person can lodge a complaint and without investigating snatch your children and place them into a foster care system.

Now don't get me wrong, there are some children, more than one's conscious mind wants to think, that need this kind of protection, but who protects the children that have been ripped from a good home while the parents are being investigated and thrown into Foster Care? Let's think about it, Foster Care is not the most "protected" surroundings known to man. Not ALL and probably if properly investigated not even HALF of the Foster Care takers are dangerous care givers. The majority of them, I have to believe, are wonderful, large hearted individuals, doing something encouraging and supportive for the less fortunate children. Yet, the Foster Care system is overloaded, even the social workers will tell you, Foster Care is, if can be helped, "unhealthy" for a child.

So when I read about people who have gone through this first hand my heart aches for those children. I couldn't imagine the nightmare those parents lived through, the sleepless nights, feeling of helplessness etc.

Then after reading all of that ~ reading about where a 6 year old child who was in Foster Care almost dies in the house, locked up in a room in the basement and left unattended for days on end. Where were the social workers checking on that poor child???? Note each state has different guidelines and some states are better than others, however, the system itself is failing the children.

I'd love to be able to fix this for the children, but all I can do is join forces with those who are trying to make life better for the "children" to PROTECT the children!!!

With all the talk of going to war and protecting other countries as well as our own, we have a war raging inside the USA that has been raging longer than the possibility of war, it is within our Child Protective System. There is no excuse for even ONE child to fall through the cracks and there is even LESS of an excuse for children whom are NOT being abused be removed from their parents and the safety of their home.

I've had to undergo investigation when my ex-husband's wife called in the troops on me. "Scarecrow" and I survived and were never separated and charges were filed against my ex-husband's wife for a false report. Yet, it leaves it's mark on the child. I had to explain what was going on and still try and not bash my ex-husband or his wife to a five year old. When I myself was spitting bullets inside myself that someone could do this to a child!!! I'm the one that pleaded with the court to drop the charges against her for the well being of my son. That does not make me a bigger person, that makes me a mother.

I've also had it threatened by a person that they'd call social services on me if I ever repeated information about her that I disagreed with in her court case. They were threats, obviously, but showed one's true colors and has been forbidden to come into my home EVER.

I would never call myself a GREAT parent, children don't come with instructions, I make mistakes, I have to eat crow, I show my children they are my life, I'm human and I mistakes. I have at times had to apologize to my children as I think children should know that parents also make mistakes but are also in tune to their feelings to apologize!!! I'm a very strict mother and I will not apologize for that ~ I think that more parents should demand that their children know how to behave in certain settings. Know when it is time to have fun and when it is time NOT to have fun. I was raised that way, all of my friends were raised that way, my husband was raised that way so why shouldn't I raise my children that way?

I make sure to know as much about my children's life and friends as "humanly" possible. I am very active in their life. To have the government question my love, devotion and beliefs as the government did in the state where ~e~ lives is unacceptable. My heart goes out to his family and what they have undergone and he has my unwaivering support. I just pray that not all states are practicing as they are in PA.

Maybe more people need to never understimate The Impossible!!! You'll have to hear the song to really understand the dymantics of what I'm so lacking in words to say.....

If I Can Be Only HALF The Parent My Daddy Was To Me, Then I Accomplished Something In My Life!