I had such a great post ready to post, went to download something and wiped it all out ~ :angry!!!! Okay shut up from the cheap seats, I know I'm blonde, but ohhh sooo good *wink*....anyways to my post if my wee brain can remember...
It was a food for thought issue~
After watching Stepmom ~ the movie. I know not many like thinking about these issues, but there have been times in my life where I had to face such issues, but I guess my number wasn't up on either Peter Paul's list or the devil...I'm thinking the devil wasn't waiting for compeition :smile.
Anyhoot.........if you've watched Stepmom, which I feel confident most have since it is an old realize, from women's stand point it is a "chick flick", from a man's stand point Julia Roberts and a significant other forcing.....but only agreed because Julia Roberts......yeah I know you sick perverts and wet dreams remember I married one....:lol
So my food for thought is this........could you be man/woman enough to be able to make peace with the "new" person in your "ex's" life, form a friendship/love and respect knowing as the one line that sticks out in my mind of the movie..."Yes I have their past, but you however will have their furture"?
Personally, I don't think I could do that.......during "my issues" my "ex" had a new wife.....whom I hated then and well years haven't helped that issue regardless if my "ex" and I can have a great laugh regularly about life, past and present....aka my boob job that I want and becoming a Dallas Cowboy Cheerleader.....:lol
And knowing Steve as I know him, he'd find some woman, who I have no doubt I would fully disagree with about raising BOTH my children...keep in mind with the ex I only had one child then.....now I have two....
My personal view is, I have no doubt that there are some people out there that could handle the situation as the movie portrays, but then there is me, NOT!!!!!!
Can't wait to hear responses, more often than not one's I'll not like, but respond anyway, what is another saying, no pain no gain??? :lol
EVERYTIME I FIND MR. RIGHT, MY HUSBAND SCARES HIM AWAY
Well....this is slightly off center from your comments, but, I'm Fred's third (and LAST) wife, and I met his children when the youngest was twelve. I'm not sure that it would have been any easier with their mother out of the picture. It's taken almost twenty years for some of them to find I might have something to offer. So, I guess that the age of the kids is going to come into play in the relationship you're talking about. If the kids are mature enough you might not have the chance to have a hand in their lives. I learned early on to confide my thoughts about situations to their father and then mind my own business.
Now.....could I be in Susan Sarandon's place and let another woman raise my children? I honestly don't know. A lot would depend on who that woman was, andn how similar her values are to mine.
It's a situation that most of us hope we'll never experience.