Days where you wake up meanier than a snake??????????
I mean after 3 cups of coffee you are still vile towards any man kind???
Well then welcome to my day........
I dreamed about something last night, don't know what it was when I woke up, but when I did wake up for the day ~ I was just down right mean towards any breathing human being or hey for that matter anything breathing in my mist.
I remember what the dream was about, it had to do with friendships, and obviously it had taken a sour turn in life..............ohh wait something I can relate too........
Yet, I guess I know why my mood was so vile all day long, is because there was some truth in this dream. I don't know I don't hold much stock in dreams and the like, but when one makes me think and re think and affects my mood as much as this one did; well, I tend to step back and take stock.
I have always tended to get along better with men than most women. In having that ability I've also managed to obtain many different adjectivies in regards to my real name. But in truth, if I was as that "experienced" when other's thought I was I'd be a happier woman :biggrin.
Yet, my "experience" also doesn't run thin either, via with men or with female friendships. To be honest, the men friendships are much easier and healthier I've learned to keep afloat; okay minus other's hands of influencen involved.
Why am I posting about this??? HELL I don't know other than a question.....
if a woman is married / or a man for that matter / are they then no longer allowed to have "friendships" with the other sex??????????
Have relationships and marriage become such a place that once you choose one for you life you can no longer have the friendships to fullfill oneself??????
I don't believe in that acutally, I believe any relationship is healthy with other's having friends of the oppoiste sex ~ and no I don't mean sexual issues either ~ get your minds out of the gutter gezzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz *HUMPF*
I guess I'm pissed because I've had one too many hands meldling *who ever said I could spell* in my life and my friendships. I've lost many friendships due to such issues, but I'm luckier than most, I've been able to regain those friendships back in the end.
Do people just not realize that one's character speaks for itself????????? Whatever happened to judging a person by there charachter????????? That is how I like to build my relationships, and only on a few wacked out calls, I haven't missed yet. No matter how far back those ties bind us or what circumstances.
Exuse the spelling or lack there of ~ and exuse my rant ~ I'm just bothered by circumstances and people's "views" and what should or should be going on in my life right now!!!!!!!
Bottom line is I'm HAPPY with my life and my decisions; if you don't like them deal with it!!!!!!!!!! I'm HAPPY in my friends; if you don't like it DEAL WITH IT!!!! I don't care if is someone recent or someone from my past I hide nothing from my husband ~ DEAL WITH IT!!!!!!!
I'm done ranting!!! But if you've read this far, think about it!!!! If you can't be happy with yourself and your life and/or your significant other who CAN you be happy with??? Because yourself is not an option...
Well, we've sure had more than our share of ups and downs... so I hope I haven't done something.
As far as people feeling like it's okay to let you know that they disagree with your life... I just don't know. I mean friends are going to give advice to eachother. I think the problems arise when they stick their nose in even after we ask them to stop. But as long as you're happy with your life, it shouldn't matter what they say. Hang in there!
Well, all who know us should know that we do not have secrets. They should however, let us decide who and what we want to do with our own lives and such. Especially not to act without our knowledge. Sound too controling for ya? Me too! BUTT OUT!
K, yes you and I have had our own issues in the past, yet this post has NOTHING to do with you *smile*
and OMG hubby comes out of hidding and post ............... I feel faint!!!!!!!!
Hi Jamie!
My best friend is a male and I'm with you - male friendships are SO much easier to maintain than ones with females. We females are just so, I dunno, catty? Anyhow, my SO had to accept that with me came the best friend (male). He did and now they're good friends as well.
I agree with Kristi. As friends there is a tendency to give advice. But you HAVE to learn the boundaries and BUTT out when it's clear your advice is not wanted.
Just my 2 cents.
p.s. Now you have my name
I know other women who feel that it is easier to maintain relationships with men as well.
For myself, I get along with my bredrens, but do have (as a male) a number of female friends...many a liitle older than myself.
For me, I suppose the gender of the friend is unimportant, it is the freindship that counts. And, always remember, TRUE friends are not numerous. Maybe some of those people that you are referring to as lost friends Jamie, were just acquaintances. True friends are blessings that endure for as long as we live IMHO! Gifts from God (some better than some family members.):-)
What a tough subject! Personally, I think we should be able to be friends with whoever comes along, male or female. Unfortunately, I've had a bad experience where the saying "Where there's smoke there's fire" kept popping up. My instinct was to clamp down and draw lines and try to preserve my relationship, and that instinct did some damage.
I'm speaking from within my relationship. My sense in the post, especially after reading Speedbump's comment, is that you have people who should mind their own business. If the two of you are comfortable with your spouse's friends, then it should be a moot point. I agree with Speed....tell the busybodies to BUTT OUT! (I need a little emoticon flinging his thumb over his shoulder here....help me out!)
Hi Jamie,
Well Steve has my vote on this one too. Friends usually listen and by listening help a friend come to conclusions if they have a need. Jamie for me personally my innerself counts very much. Advice is all well and good but who's to say anyones advice is right for the personal circumstances of another. As you know my form of friendship only comes in one guise as a listener. Grins if I wanted a job as a lecturer I'd have got a degree. I am also with Kitty on this one...what a couple do is their own business and yes I damn well do believe in married people being able to have friends of the opposite sex. If other people cannot deal with it then I say thats their problem.
Hugs babes...love you loads, Sylvie...and the same to Speed Bump
Well, now that we've spoken and I know the story, I don't blame you one bit for how you feel. Most importantly, you have the support of your husband. Craig and I are the same way, we have no secrets and no matter what either of us are doing the other knows about it and it's just no big deal.