We left off at Tuesday and Q16 seemed to be in agreement with the newly founded rules of the house, or at least so we thought!!!!
Wednesday rolls around and one of his little friends (whom is a girl) wants to attend his baseball game. So I tell her that if it is okay with her parents I will take her home with us and then on to the game and fix dinner after the game then take her home. So she and one of her little friends jump at the offer. We are driving home and Q16's cell phone rings and he says "Private number" who is that? He answers and I hear him say "I'm in the van with my mother this was not wise". I hit the breaks and turn around and stare at Q16 and say "What part of NO FUCKIN' CONTACT are you not grasping?" He quickly hangs up the phone!!
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We get home and Q16 gets ready for his game and his phone rings ~ I walk in his room and he won't answer his phone so his answering machine picks up and low and behold it is her again. Then she calls his cell phone AGAIN and leaves a message. I go nuts!!!
We go to his game and Q16 swears it isn't him making the contact and she won't take no for an answer ~ I have no reason at this point not to believe him and I tell him one more phone call from her and I'm calling her parents!!!! Luckily for them both at this point she got the message and didn't call back. However, I did find out that the two of them were planning on skipping classes so they could spend time together "alone".
So I spent the day on Thursday at his school calling his classes to make sure he attended and then having him come to the Principal's office to have a little chat of his intentions..........he was mortified!!!! *humpf GOOD!!!!!!*
Then after school on Thursday I'm informed that they have not stopped having contact and that there is a note from this little girl in Q16's possession. So on the drive home I ask him did he speak to her today, exchange any notes etc etc etc??? He looked me dead in my eyes and said "No we are not having anything to do with one another at all per your demands mama". So I tell him, in other words, if I were to pull this van over right now and go through your things I would not find anything that would send me into psycho mom mode correct???? DEAD SILENCE!!!!! Then very weakly he says I have a note from her. I look at him and said so in other words "YOU JUST LIED TO ME?" He says nothing and I told him that was a question not a statement ~ his response sent me into a frenzy!!! He said "Yes, but only because it is none of your business whom I get notes from and whom I don't".
Whip lash city when I slammed on breaks and pulled my van on the side of the road and said "EXCUSE YOU? YOU TURNED 21 WHEN EXACTLY AND STARTED PAYING YOUR BILLS????" He refused to comment or talk any further which only made me stew even harder. So I go online to check whom he has been calling on his cell phone. He is about 10 minutes away of going over his minutes and all the numbers are to her or her calling him AFTER the law had been laid down about no contact. So he is out his cell phone and his home line!!!!
Then I read the letter ~ which tells him how she is sorry she screwed up his life and that she is so depressed again and is having to be treated via medication for her depression and she wants to start cutting herself again. How much she loves Q16 and she knows he loves her too and that they can solve this problem together.
Then my phone rings and it is her ~ OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I answer and she says that she was just checking her numbers to make sure whom was who ~ I informed her this is a number you are not allowed to call or any other number in this household that I pay for OR ELSE!!!!
Friday is pretty uneventful thankfully with the exception that I knew report cards were due out ~ Q16 swears his grades are in acceptable order ~ which I respond with we'll see!!!
Then on Saturday when I get home from work ~ Q16 is in his room with the radio a bit to loud sitting at his desk writing something when I walk in. I just assumed he was working on homework so I walk in and look over his shoulder ~ guess what it wasn't home work ~ it was a three page letter to this girl.
So I begin to read it ~ I immediately see RED ~ in this letter he is informing this girl that and I quote "his parents can kiss his ass along with any of his friends that do not support this relationship with her as she is what he wants and will have regardless of what anyone says ~ then further on to state it is his life and the rest of the world can just deal with it".
Yeah I dealt with it alright ~ Speedbump came running up the stairs when he hears crashing items in the floor ~ and me screaming "I CAN KISS YOUR ASS???" Let's try this on for size I'm going to BEAT YOUR ASS is more like it!!!! I proceed to tell him I knew there was more to this story than her being a damn idiot of persuing you after knowing your parents forbid it but per your request you asked me to trust you and since to date you had not given me any reason not too I took you at your word ~ well welcome to hell buddy!!!!! I'm frantically searching for a belt to beat him to a pulp when Speed intervens ~
Q16 tears up the note and says there it is out of my system she won't ever get the note I just want this all to be over with ~ I respond with I'm sick of you telling me things you think are going to get you off the hook buddy ~ what was in that letter was very plain and clear and now I'm going to finish it for you!!!!
Sunday I had to work and apparently Q16 hybernated in his room for fear of bodily harm upon him should he show his face.
Monday *aka yesterday* consisted of me ripping his room apart and the fireworks exploded yet again ~ I found a progress report sent home 3 weeks ago I never got ~ good comparision item to his report card I was going to obtain that afternoon ~ on the progress report he had all A's except for one class I already knew he was having trouble in which was a low B. Then I found all the notes ~ telling him he doesn't have to listen to his parents or friends that she and he were the only two that matter and were in control of this situation not anyone else ~ the letter confirming a lie of having to stay after school so that Q16 could walk her home so they could "be alone" ~ and details about the kisses that they have been sharing with one another and the feelings that exploded inside her...................ask me how well that all set with me!!!!!!!!!!!
I drive to school to pick him up ~ he gets in the car and I tell him hand over your report card and book bag NOW ~ I inform him the last straw has been broken and tonight I'm calling into work and staying home and calling her mother. He turns PALE WHITE and is gasping for air!!!!!!!!!!!! Not because I'm choking him but because he knows I've found out everything ~
I'll end with the comparision of progress report and report card ~ deep breath ~ the amount of anger I'm still feeling right now is not expressed in words ~ he went from his normal report cards via his progress report to in the time frame he has been messing around with his life ~ dropped to all low C's with one A in baseball.
I'll post at a later time the conversation I had when calling over to her home ~ but for now I have to get this house cleaned so I can decorate for Halloween and try and burn off some of this angry energy!!!
WHO ARE THESE KIDS AND WHY ARE THEY CALLING ME MOM!!!
well if he's still alive and breathing after this, I'm amazed...looking for your mug shot on CNN
WOW! I think the world needs more mothers like you. I agree with you on the decision to make this relationship end. Q16 will probably hate you for a while but when he is older he will have appreciated you keeping him away from a looser, depressed, whore! oops, was that mean? LOL but you know what I mean...
looks ya dead in the eye, I was once Q16, I remember quite well... forbiden love only makes it more romantic, its the world against them. Think back, did you do everything your parents asked you to, were your friends hand picked by them? You raised him well, give him guidence, let him know you are not happy about the choice, but pushing him out and making him feel like he cant come to you is not going to help. I am not saying open your arms to the relationship,holy hell NO, but refusing them each other is not going to work. Been there, done that, and still have the memories.
Granted I am sure my opinion wont fly with some or hell even with most and not with you at all. But you are a wise woman and you do listen even if not all of it you agree with. I am saying rethink it. Sometimes taking the romance idea of the Romeo and Juliette syndrom out of it can kill the romance itself. Just my 2 cents.
I'm glad he's still alive...
Seeing if this works at all. I've posted before but they don't get through.
I'm with Lois on this one.
Sylvie x
Jamie....we've been kicking this around here, and the general consensus is...the harder you are on him, the more you drive him toward her. Perhaps there needs to be a point where you take a step back, take a deep breath, and see if you can talk about it calmly. I know that's not what you expected from us....but it's the best advice we have at the moment.
I hope things work out, hon.
Hmm...tough one Jamie. I'm very late here.
I think I support you though. They are both very young, and she sounds quite the 'fatal attraction' type. You may well be right to try to end it. I really don't wish it on you, but a teen pregnancy happens easily. Please make sure Speed has had the man to man talk with Q16.
Nevertheless, try not to blow any fuses.