Confusing huh? Well since I'm so baffled about some ongoing issues it seemed appropriate for a title. However, let us begin with some fun!!!
Well batcave made an appearance on our side of town the other night. So of course, I had to venture out with one my adoptive "kids" to go see her with camera in hand. She as usual is still beautiful and I am without makeup and hair undone.........but here we are in our glory together!!!
As you can see our "showerguy" off to the side so I must include him on the next photo!!!
Gawd I miss them ~ however I must give credit to the batcave she is coming around really good lately!!!
Now if you dare to read further, you can read what I called insight, but will be mixed with a tongue lashing!! Continue if you dare........
I must admit, regardless how rough being a "responsible adult" is, I care NEVER to return being a teenager!!! Where the actual largest dilemma in our life is our friends are being faithful and truthful and if our boyfriends are being faithful and adoring. However, in today's day and age, those factors don't even rank on the radar screen. They are more complicated, confusing and those few items mentioned above become the lashing points of mistakes/choices make in their lives as teenagers.
However, let us not forget, PARENTS ARE DUMB!!!! They NEVER have experienced any of these feelings of confusion, lack of self worth, hurt, disappointment, questioning why they are alive, and the list goes on so how on earth could we as parents EVER understand. :notworthy
Well should I have any teenage viewers here, which I know I have one, aka my son, let me break it down for you in terms you can understand or at least try since I"m a parent and so stupid.
What I've Learned As A Teenager and Now A Mom
1. SHIT HAPPENS
2. All the feelings mentioned above is not solely for teenagers, the only differences is the older you get the more you understand to not lie about it. Okay with most adults, not all, need I take everyone down memory lane with cuntvilla?
3. believe it or not teenagers, these feelings will pass, and life will move on! You'll find new friends, you'll find a new boyfriend/girlfriend, you'll enjoy your teenage years
4. these feelings are only preparing you for more devestating feelings when you become an adult and watch a PARENT when you then become stupid and don't understand!!!
5. Most importantly ~ THIS TOO SHALL PASS!!!
HOWEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! When other teenage feelings begin to conflict with my children in such hurtful manners that inexcusable ~ well this stupid mom becomes VERY MUCH INVOLVED!!!!
Side note: that is something you'll learn when you become a parent and stop worrying about your feelings and keep a close eye on how your children are feeling and behaving!!!
Hurting someone to make yourself feel better is not the way to go! Listening to advise of friends whom THINK they know you and you listen to thier advise and then wind up even more miserable ~ don't take it out on the friend and/or boy/girlfriend as it is their fault because they took you at your word!
Life is a bundle of hurts, from every relationship formed in your life! Some you can get over, other's scare you for life, and some hurts you caused on yourself. You deal with them in your own personal way, but when you strike out to the other's YOU hurt in the process. Newsflash you cross so many lines, as teenagers, you can't even begin to comprehend!
In closing ~ life is what you make it, accept it, and deal with it. Don't think you are the only one whom has ever felt this way or ever will. There are generations before you and many generations after you that will look and feel that you are stupid at some point WE ALL HAVE GONE THROUGH THESE FEELINGS!!!! Teenagers you are not alone!!! But since you are so grown you already knew that right? If so, then here is a piece of advise, hurting other's with visious comments and actions WILL come back to hurt you!!!
And you'll eventually find out when you become a parent and it comes to your kids, it doesn't matter if it is teenagers and/or adults. You mess with our kids you will feel the wrath!!!! And never you doubt ~
When my children get hurt THIS MOTHER reacts!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you and goodnite!!
Jamie
This is well stated. What goes around comes around and you reep what you sow. Life is a series of joys and pains, all of which are learning experiences, enjoy and learn from all of them.
Speed
you make some very good, valid points here.
I'm sure teenagers would love to forget that we were once in their shoes, and while issues of the day were different, to us they were no less than many things kids face today. I'm sure every one of us can look back now and wonder why in the hell that was such an issue back then, when it wouldn't even make a blip on our radar now. I think because back then, we didn't have the life experiances we do now that help us to grow and learn.
I'm pretty sure I know what this post is about (again, knowing you'll correct me if I'm wrong! LOL) but you know, there are things kids have to go through in their own way...you can't fight their battles for them (as much as we as mothers want to) they have to do it themselves.
Well, Teresa is right. Some things the kids have to go through no matter how much we'd like to shield them from the pain. But the truth of the matter is that our actions and reactions come about through experiences and if we shield them from the experience we then shield them from learning the lessons they need to learn... or else we spend the rest of our lives digging them out of the same probelm over and over again. Good luck with this one!
I agree with both of you ~ I am not sheilding anyone from the experience ~ everyone is dealing with their own personal demons on this one and it wasn't stated to one inparticular situation or person. It was a way for me to express what I think that we all did as teenagers and to some degree adults ~ going through a situation and feeling as if no one in the world understands and it is happening to them. Plus the situation that surrounded Q17 ~ think about it do you honestly think he'd allow me to interfer??? *smile* Remember he is grown and I am stupid LOL!!!! In summary it was my way of trying to state to any teenagers that may read this blog they aren't alone!