January 2005 Archives

This is just WRONG! :let_it_all_out

Now I understand that the DOMA says that states don't have to recognize gay marriages performed in another state, which I don't believe is right either, if hetero couples get legally married in any state or country for that matter, their marriage is valid no matter where they go, the same benefit should apply for gay couples who are legally married!
So in reading over this, it also 'defines' the word 'spouse' according to the federal government, 'spouse' is only used to define 'one man and one woman'.
First thought that comes to mind is "then :wtf is W getting his panties in a wad trying to amend the constitution for?
Second thought that comes to mind is these marriages are LEGAL, why can they not be recognized as such by the IRS?

"King George" seems to forget that what he is trying to do, and that the DOMA already in place, are, in fact, UNCONSTITUTIONAL!!
yes, that's right, Amendment 14, Section 1 clearly states...

All persons born or naturalized in the United States, and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the state wherein they reside. No state shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any state deprive any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws.

And before some of you start hollering about the 'immoral' aspect of it, let me remind you of a little thing we call Seperation of Church and State while, not stated specifically in the Constitution, is certainly implied, and my religion is obviously not your religion, otherwise that whole 'love thy neighbor as thyself' thing would have a lot more meaning for you.

well, it looks like I was finally able to get password protected entries on here! :banana
for my hosties, if you would like this feature on your blogs, leave me a comment...and for everyone, if you see anything wonky, please let me know!!

but now that I do, I want to go!!
GLBT Historical Society
This is awesome!

Their Website

and I hate California....:rofl

I was in the hospital, having been there for 2 days already. Let me just state right now my oldest is definitely his mothers child, stubborn as hell :rofl
yes, today is 'the dude's' birthday.
from the beginning he was such an 'old soul'...he cried once and looked at me like "it's about time you let me out of there!" :lol
he was the child who would sleep through getting his baby shots...
he was also the child who had every waitress in every truck stop from here to New Mexico wrapped around his little finger...and I swear he knew it!
Dude, I love you, and I wish I could be with you today...I wish you wouldn't be in such a hurry to get older so you could do more, but enjoy your childhood, it's the only one you'll have, and you'll miss it when it's gone.
:kisses
even though you'll never see this...you mommy loves you, more than you could ever imagine. :1luvu:heart:1luvu:heart

for some reason, this just frightens the hell out of me!

Beware Bush doing God's work

but this gives me hope, that somewhere, out there, someone has a brain they're using!!

Gay marriage does no harm to outsiders
no kidding Sherlock!! :rofl

you guys should be used to these announcements by now, however, this one is a bit different...:smile
I've created a blog where I've put 'our story' and will continue to post things about the upcoming wedding, etc...I'm not going to link it here however...but if you want the URL, simply email me, or post a comment.

I will warn you ahead of time however, that 4 out of 5 dentists agree that reading of said blog, could cause cavities, and if you're diabetic it might cause a sugar induced coma! :rofl
proceed at your own risk! :chtounge

:wtf
I think focus on the family needs to focus on pulling their head out of their collective asses!!
More on the religious rights campaign against sponge bob
will sponge bob make you gay?
The video causing all the controversy
there is no reference to anything even resembling homosexuality, or even gender identity in this video, acceptance and love of family, yes, I failed to see anything more though!
While I'm on the topic, I've got a news flash for the people at focus on the family...NOTHING will MAKE you gay!!
Thats right, Nada, zip, zilch, you get the picture yet? You either are, or you are not, we don't recruit, assimilate, or anything else in the gay community, we simply are, some of us it make take a while to realize it, but no one MADE us gay! :hammer
And certainly not an annoying little kids cartoon :fdup

One Year Ago Today
I made a trip that started me on a journey toward one of the hardest, most chaotic, hectic, and ultimately best, year of my life
I met people, some in person after years of talking to them, and some I'd never spoken to, but all would end up playing such major roles in my life, and ultimately end up being some of the best friends a girl could ever dream of.

I love you guys :kisses

ok, now that I've managed to pull my jaw up off the floor, I think I can post a bit more about it :sun_smiley
to say she surprised me is putting it mildly, I honestly had no idea what was going on, just thought we were going out with some friends for our 6 month anniversary.
we're all laughing, having a great time, basically just hanging out, when over the speakers comes the announcement "this song goes out to T"
I, of course, ask who I get to kill for doing THAT! and get the response "all of us"
the song I posted below comes on, I recognize it, but it hasn't dawned on me yet...till she sets a box down in front of me and said "well you know what the question is, you recognize the song, don't you?" (or something like that, since I think I went into shock then :lol)
Then Ran read a letter she had written to the both of us, after which I asked her if she knew beforehand...to which I got the response "we ALL knew, everybody except you was in on it" :biglaugha
yes, we have set a date, and pretty much decided where we are going to have it / what type of ceremony we want...now there's just the rest of the list of things to take care of :scared

6 months ago tomorrow (since it is now after midnight, and officially the 13th) I met someone, who I refer to on here as M...we've been together every night with the exception of one since then.
Tonight, we went out, since on the 'official' night, we are working opposite shifts :cry
I'm not going to go into ALL the details, since I have to be to work at 6am, and you can see from the time at the bottom of this post, that it's not long from that now...but I will post the song she had dedicated to me...

So last night, I come home, sign on as usual, and a message pops up from a friend who's computer I just fixed, asking us to meet her at the norm for a drink...M was at work :cry, but she still wanted me to meet them (her and another mutual friend of ours) up there, so, even though it was pretty much the last thing I felt like doing, I get ready and go...and I'm so glad I did!
We're sitting there drinking, and talking, when Ran calls! asking where I am and the like, since they were over by my house :lol, so I tell her to meet us up there, and then M calls and said if I want to stay she will meet us up there after work...so we had quite a little group going by this time, and to top it off it was the King's show last night! :biggrin
It's been so long since we've all done that, just go and hang out, have a good time, and just unwind after a long week. I hope it's not that long before we all get together again!
One element was missing though, and I'm sure everyone knows what/who that was...we drank one for you gal, hope everything is going well :cool we miss you!!
to my friends that were there, thank you, Love you all, and hopefully we can do it again VERY SOON!
:kisses

this is something I saw on a message board I frequent, not sure who wrote it, but if you know who needs credit, please let me know...
I promise a real post soon!! just been very very busy here!!

Until the people we deal with realize that we are human we will not be accepted.

..... I am not the flaming queen you see on the 5pm news at the local gay parade.

..... I still bleed red blood when I am cut.. I still cry when I am hurt.

..... No, I dont want your wife just because YOU think she is the bomb.

..... No, I dont go around having wild sex with everyone I see or meet.

..... No, I dont want to convert/recruit/corrupt your precious child

..... this list could go on and on...

My point being.. that when I have contact with others, whether I want to, or like it, I represent this community. How I conduct myself around people has a direct impact on how they see me (of course) and the impressions they walk away with of our community as a whole.

If I am able to show one or two people what we are really like, then perhaps they will realize that we are not ogres. Yes, we have our wild times, as does everyone else. But we are all still human.

Why should I deny who I am? Why should I let their possible prejudice deter me from being who I am? Why should I let their possible negative opinions force me to hide who I am? Why should I let their possible negative feelings/opinions allow me to deny who I love?

And lastly, WHY would I let a chance to change someone's opinion go by without even giving it a try?

Every time I am given the chance to show off my girl or show others that I am still just a human, I will take that chance.. because *I* deserve that chance and so do they.

Last years NYD entry
Last Years Recap
it's funny, I don't make resolutions, and most of the time I don't, I didn't think I did last year, but I did...and yes, I kept it. I was determined to get out of that hellish state and get my life back...and while it (my life) may still be somewhat off track, it's getting better all the time :wink

So, it's that time of year when we reflect on things that have happened to us over the last year, and I'm human, I tend to do the same, it's human nature I suppose to reflect on the passing year and what could have been done differently.
I try to live my life without regrets, and for the most part I have succeeded, after all, everything in my past helped shape me into the person I am today, I wouldn't be ME, if not for the events that took place to shape who I am, and where I am today...
this does not mean that I look back and don't wish some things could have been done differently, but for the most part, it was out of my hands, as it was the actions of others that directed the course of events, but you still wonder if there is something that you could have done or said differently to alter the outcome...I am extremely thankful that friendships were not permanently damaged when all was said and done.
If you're wondering what brought on that bout of rambling, suffice it to say that I was rereading archives this morning looking for the above links :lol

My hopes for this year, are for my friends to find the happiness they deserve, for the insane person in the white house to come to his senses and see that we're not looking for anything special, just equal, actually I'd rather all these 'questionable voting results' declare a new winner...but I'm certain that will be hushed up quickly.
I look forward to getting me back on track, taking care of things I need to get done, so M and I can move forward in our lives...

:group_smile
Goodbye 2004!! I can't say as I'll miss you, but you made for an interesting year :rofl

this years 'recap' below if you're interested...