Maybe my father is right, maybe I AM a man-hater, I know for damn sure there is one I cannot fucking STAND!:angry WTF I was thinking when I married that man I have no clue, and is it to late to plead temporary insanity?:sad
As everyone who reads this on a regular basis knows I have an ex-husband from hell, also as most know I had to give up the addy to this domain due to disclosure in our upcoming court case, (hence the reasoning behind all the 'fluff' posts lately) so I have absolutely no doubt he will read this post.
Now ask me if I give a shit.
I'm actually counting on it.:rofl
So sit back and hang on, this might get a tad bit longer than what you're used to.
Last year my oldest son was in cub scouts, no problem right?
We would both go to the meetings etc... and I actually had a clue what was going on and would talk to the other parents there (god forbid!!)
He got pissed about this, we had an argument (oh big surprise there) that ended with him saying that he did not want me involved in the boys scouting and that was HIS thing with them, and all that I was trying to do was take it over.
Bullshit
So, I backed down (again nothing new, I did it through 10 ½ years of marriage) and let him have his 'thing' with the kids.
Now this year we have 2 kids in scouts, and he is the one taking them, I keep the youngest while they go do their thing. (and I might add we have a blast by ourselves :smile)
However
For some reason, something I'm supposed to have NOTHING to do with, I'm still expected to pay ½ of their dues and uniforms, I still have to purchase whatever it is they're selling to help support it, (oh yea, right before Christmas I can really afford that, NOT) he keeps nickel and diming me to death on this bullshit that we almost came to blows over last year!:angry:angry:angry
Now tonight, I discover that they have a Xmas parade coming up Saturday, ok, yes I knew about it, however I did not know any details, such as time etc...come to find out they have to have costumes, and he wanted me to make one of them (nice time to tell me this don't you think? 2 days beforehand) he had also already decided that they would not be in it, ok fine, then he tries to put the blame off on me in front of the kids, saying that he had to work and since I've had this job that I've never taken a day off for anything, (like I can fucking afford to with all he keeps taping me for!) then it happened, the other shoe dropped, I have been braced for it for some time now considering how nice he had been lately (guess he needed help with the god damn popcorn sales or something) but he just HAD to throw my vacation in there, telling the boys that I had one coming up and 'mamma should be able to spend time with you then, but she's going out of town'
So I told them yes, we were going to their grandma's the first weekend then I would be going out of town, they would be in school at that time, and reminded them that I was allowed to have a life. To which he said 'yes and if she doesn't want to share it with you...' and left it at that.
That is complete and absolute BULLSHIT!!
If I didn't want that I wouldn't be fighting so damn hard right now, I wouldn't be working my ass off to get somewhere further than I am right now, but for gods sake I'm allowed to have a little time for ME, just because I go out of town for a week does not make me a bad mother, now if I was going and wasn't sure my kids would be properly cared for then yes, that would make me a bad mother, but I know better than that, I know they will be well taken care of.
Now, as for how much time I spend with them, I spend every moment I can get with them, I pick them up from school, because that horrible job the he keeps ragging on allows me the schedule to be able to do that! Help them with homework, and listen to them tell me on a regular basis 'you're the best mommy that ever lived'
Oh yes I'm sure they just think I'm horrible (rolling eyes)
It's true, if they don't want to come over here I don't force the issue, I don't try to bribe or guilt them into doing so, I am secure in my children's love for me...which makes me wonder what is going through your head when you do those things...:blush
